Dr. West  


Something to consider


The Long Trip Home


" I went from feeling jealous to feeling that if she really loved me, it wouldn't matter."


Dr. Weston

       My wife and I were spending the weekend in Las Vegas and on a Sunday night when we ran into a male friend from LA.

As we talked my friend kept looking at his watch and finally he said, "My flight back to LA leaves soon." Momentarily forgetting that we had come in our new "Z," I said that he could simply go back with us.

When I finally remembered my new car was a two-seater, it was a bit late to take back the offer, especially since by then he would be late for his flight.

With all the time in the world now, he and my wife headed for the car. 

The logical thing would be for him to drive, but since then he'd had a few drinks I didn't want him trashing my new "Z" and us along with it. 

The only way we could do it would be if my wife sat on his lap. We decided we could make it work if we tilted the seat all the way back. (Well, It worked in college with my MG!)

My wife tried to sit up straight for some time, but it wasn't long before she leaned back on my friend.

To keep her steady around curves he was holding her.  It wasn't long before her head was nestled under his chin and they were asleep. 

" At first I guess I was a bit jealous seeing another man holding my wife like that -- but after a while I got used to it.  Then as I kept looking at them (it's a three-hour drive) I saw how she looked totally content nestled into him."


      About half way home I stopped for coffee, but they we still half asleep, so after they hit the restrooms, they went back to the car.

After I finished coffee and pie, I returned to the car and found them again asleep together in the passenger seat.

The rest of the way home gave me a lot of time to think. They way they were cuddled together, it almost resembled an after-sex embrace.

" They could have easily had a 'quickie,' and maybe would never know. And if I didn't know, would it have really made any difference? "


I thought how narrow-minded it would be to let a simple act that could happen in a few minutes destroy a marriage.

          After we got home I started teasing her about "sleeping with another man."

She said, "If you want honesty, with him holding me and with the smell of his body, it was kind of erotic. Are you jealous?"

I said, "For a while I was, seeing how the two of you were snuggled up together. But then I tried to work through it in my imagination. I imagined that the two of you did get it on while I was having coffee. I went from feeling jealous to feeling that if I knew you really loved me, it wouldn't matter."

She said, "This is interesting, so it wouldn't have mattered as long as you didn't know about it?

But, what if after a couple months you find out that we did?"

I thought about it. "I guess that would change things, especially if you kept if from me."

In kind of a teasing way she said, "Why don't you assume we did and see how you deal with it." 

"So did you?"

She smiled in her devilish way. "Sure, and it was the best quickie I ever had."