Dr. West  


Something to think about


The Long Trip Home

Some quotes constructed from original context.

" I went from feeling jealous to feeling that if I knew you really loved me, then I guess it wouldn't matter."



Dr. Weston

       My wife and I were spending the weekend in Las Vegas and on Sunday night we ran into a male friend from LA coming out of a show.

As we talked my friend looked at his watch and said, "My flight to LA leaves in about an hour." Forgetting that we had come in our new "Z," I said that he could simply go back with us.

When I finally remembered my new car was only a two-seater, it was a bit late to take back the offer, especially since by then he would be late for his flight.

With all the time in the world now, he and my wife had a couple drinks (I had coffee) and headed for the car. 

The logical thing would be for him to drive, but since he'd had a couple drinks I didn't want him trashing my new "Z" and us along with it. 

The only way we could do it would be if my wife sat on his lap. We decided we could make it work if we tilted the seat all the way back and then took regular rest breaks. (It worked in college with my MG!)

      My wife tried to sit up straight for some time, but it wasn't long before she leaned back on my friend. To keep her steady around the curves he held onto her. 

It wasn't long before her head was nestled under his chin and they were both asleep. 

" At first I guess I was a bit jealous seeing another man holding my wife like that -- but after a while I got used to it.  Then as I kept looking at them (it's almost a three-hour drive) I saw how she looked totally content nestled into him."


      About half way home I stopped for coffee, but they we still half asleep, so after they hit the restrooms, they went back to the car.

After I finished coffee and pie, I returned to the car and found them again asleep on the passenger seat.

I wondered if I could cuddle up against an attractive woman without thinking of just one thing.

      The rest of the way home gave me a lot of time to think. They way they were cuddled together, it almost resembled an after-sex embrace.

" They could have easily had a 'quickie' while I was having coffee and pie, and I wouldn't know -- and would probably never know. And if I didn't know, would it  have really made any difference in our marriage? "


I thought how narrow-minded it would be of me to let a simple act that could happen in a few minutes maybe destroy our marriage.

I knew that kind of response was typical with men, as in, If you let him put it in, the relationship is over and I will never forgive you!

          After we got home I started teasing my wife about "sleeping with another man."

She said, "If you want honesty, with him holding me and with the smell of his body, it was kind of erotic. Are you jealous?"

I said, "For a while I was, seeing how the two of you were snuggled up together. But then I imagined that the two of you did get it on and I went from feeling jealous to feeling that if I knew you really loved me, it wouldn't matter."

"So it comes down to the certainty of love in our relationship."

I thought about it.  "Yes, I guess it does."